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Psalms 139:14 (NLT)

Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
Your workmanship is marvelous--and how well I know it.

Today we are going to talk a little about marriage.
Some of you may not be married and some of you are, either case this applies to both cases.

We look around and think, "I wish my marriage would be like theirs" or "If I could only find someone like that, I would stay happily married forever"
In both cases, this is a false impression of what your marriage should be, or what your future marriage will be like (if you are not currently married).

Why do I say this?
Look at the first sentence of today's devotional verse again.

Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!

Each and every one of us are created uniquely and different. Just because someone has a great marriage, you cannot copy what they do to have that happy marriage.
Example, One of the ways my wife knows I truly love her and care about her is the fact that I am a hard worker, I stay at my job, and do the best I can to supply for the needs of our family. My wife needs the security of knowing that her husband works hard to take care of her and the children, and does not jump from one job to the next every couple of months.
Now this is good for my marriage, but it may not be what your wife needs from you as a husband (Although we as husbands should always work hard to take care of our families). Your wife may need something else and by trying to be like me and my wife wont make your marriage like ours, because we are all wonderfully complex they way the Lord created each one of us.
I also have needs that only my wife can take care of, but my needs may not be the same as your needs (if you are the husband) or your husband's needs (if you are the wife).
So, what does all of this mean?
Desire to have a great marriage in the Lord, but don't desire to model your marriage like someone else's, but rather know that we are all wonderfully complex or uniquely made, and ask the Lord or your own spouse what he or she needs to help your marriage be wonderful.
And when someone asks why your marriage is so great, just tell them that the Lord has created us all different and that the Lord has shown you that unique thing or things that makes your spouse happy that she (or he) is married to you, and you to her (or him).

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